Is fear your stronghold?

In a fast-evolving world, chances are that there will be times when communication goes awry.

Most of the time, you’ll be able to brush this off and perhaps not even notice it.

Good feedback will often be delivered as ‘great job’, ‘thanks for your help’, ‘great having you here’.

Yet it’s feedback that creates challenge.

People can be afraid to give it. It becomes a ‘big’ thing. Or when they do give feedback it’s either personal, lacks the quality and any value to the receiving party. When it’s given badly it results in judgement and when it’s given less meaningfully it results in our minds brushing it aside.

Take Walt Disney who was fired from the Kansas City Star in 1919 because his editor said he ‘lacked imagination and had no good ideas’.

Oprah Winfrey who was reportedly fired from her job as an evening news reporter because she couldn’t sever her emotions from her stories.

Darwin who was described lazy and too dreamy by his father, wrote ‘I was considered by all my masters and my father, a very ordinary boy, rather below the common standard of intellect’.

All of this is feedback focusing on the negative and the personal. It’s this feedback that can drip feed into your subconscious and becomes a stronghold for what you really want.

Here are 5 examples as to how fear can show up:

  1. Anxiety
  2. Procrastination
  3. Perfectionism
  4. Imposter Syndrome
  5. Stagnation

Here are 3 of my tips to start understanding your fears and what to do next:

Be proud of your achievements

There’s always more to do – at work and in life – and we spend very little time celebrating and understanding what it is we have achieved. I know that when you take a look back at what you have achieved, this will show you who you are.

Understand your emotions – the way you think and feel

Okay, this sounds a bit woo woo, yet it’s not. Whilst all of my clients want more in their work or to get to the next level, I see emotions show up in clients words and actions. It’s really important to recognise, acknowledge and label to enable transformation.

Stop saying yes, and start saying no

Stop saying yes to things that no longer light you up. Loyalty is a desirable trait yet it’s the one thing that stops you moving forward.

What will make the next 12 months better than the last, for you?


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